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I am a person just like you. Have been through struggles and have got help and coached my self to happiness. And am here to listen and help others achieve there happiness View all posts by Pandora

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Self Reflection

by pandora
written by pandora

Today I am blown away, the journey I am on has finally come into play

Today and from now on, the future is mine, to stay

I can play this the way I want it, because the simple key is my mindset.

The challenges have faded away as I clearly create my future today

I have learn to stop those crazy cycles that do not serve me.

I have found the answer to all of my dreams.

Work with the power of your mind and dreams, the gift to life

and if you get stuck just pause and breath life will show how to be free.

There is a reason for our paths we are on and if you don’t learn as you go, you will be stuck on

stuck on that cycle of bad habits that you know so well, they do not serve you they just turn into hell

So grab some help and change your ways and watch your life turn into play

You can have anything you want in the highest and best way

Just make sure you check what you are thinking, this will guid the way

So my message today is jump into to the mind of positive thinking

To create what you want today

and watch you life create what your thinking

The power of positive mindsets

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General

Reach out coronavirus

by pandora
written by pandora

PLEASE REACH OUT

When you see a friend acting not as they usually do, reach out and help them find there way back home. I have a dear friend and I am seeing actions that are out of the ordinary and not the responsible person I use to see.

This coronavirus has bought out a lot of different feelings we have hidden or run from for a long time. Now its time to face them and deal with them in the right way not to fight and flight. We must stop, pause and take a look at our selves threw our own eyes. As parents, we are role models for our kids, like it or not. we all do the best we can. So take a look at your self just for a minute and say is this how I want my child to be when he grows up. its never to late to make some different choices.

Now some words for my friend as I know they will read this and digest it. where do I start.

I am seeing that God is giving you a few chances latterly. We may have got some money but that won’t last unless we think smart. Please start looking for a job and go back to see your mum, who knows you may need her one day or just miss her one day. I had better words in my head but now it is coming out like advice. I don’t want to tell you what to do I need you to realise your action have outcomes. making choices in our own responsibility.

You have your whole life ahead of you now is the time to do it. Take a look at who you are associating with to how you are acting. finding people you look up to and have things you want to achieve in life. we are who we hang out with is the saying, i think

Points to think about,

NOT JUSTY FOR MY FRIEND BUT FOR ALL OF US, INCLUDING ME

Drinking is not the answer

Showing off is not the answer

Not seeing your mum is not the answer

Not taking responsibly is not the answer

Think about your child they need to have a structure to grow. So bed early on weekdays when school, holding your temper back, less drinking helps to clear your head, being responsible with your possessions. You need those to survive for work and getting around with your child. Sorry reality is hard and I am still learning, I am not perfect.

This may seem harsh but I just sore a clip-on fb the child hung himself because he broke another controller and was probably scared to tell his parents and a lot of other things, isolation of coronavirus. Our children don’t always tell us whats going on in their heads. So to show them we are one to look up to and to come to us if there is any problem is so crucial. Sorry that one just hit my heart and that one was probably for me. To have a look at some things I can do differently too.

So god is looing after you but he cannot make the decisions for you. You have the biggest heart put it where it is needed.

some special words

So take a look at your life, Do you really want to fight, Or is it just a fright

I know your heart is mighty big, But you just need to dig, Not a whole but a life

You are the best thing for your child, The children will go wild, If we don’t do it right

Unfold and take control, Lets be strong and live fun and long

You are amazing, So take the chains and throw them away, You can play after responsibility

So create a future and live, Love, and teach our young ones to live.

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FeelingsGeneral

Facing your vagina

by pandora
written by pandora

Do you feel comfortable with looking at your vagina?

I am a woman just like you and yes I use to feel uncomfortable looking at my vagina but she is your best friend. If you want to feel intimacy and sexual you need to get it to touch with what makes you feel excited, the vagina has many sensations and every woman is different. We hold blocks and fears which stops us from loving our vaginas. You all have a story and I love this because you have a choice to make you feel excited and loved and amazing. “your choice.”

How you ask?

Let’s just say if you don’t know what feels good how is your partner meant to know. Well, I guess he will try all sorts of things but if you don’t guide him he may just lose interest, not because he doesn’t love making you feel good but because you are, (not meaning too)giving him a sense of worthlessness. You see men are very simple they like to please there lady and make them feel good because then you will want to return the favour as you both connect in a special loving way.

Getting in touch with you.

some simple exercises are looking into the mirror at your vagina, then exploring feel, felt, touch and finding sensations you like, so you can share and enjoy together.

Sex is fun if we just get out of our heads and not be so busy that we cannot fit each other’s needs of pleasure in. we are at a time where time is on our side and should take advantage of this and start to explore each other, like when we first met. We need to explore our own bodies and find out what works for you and then we can share this with our partners. That’s why we are here yes PLEASURE NoT PAIN.

mirror feel felt touch work

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What does Intimacy say to you?

by pandora
written by pandora

To me it is a connection sexually and mentally

Something I have been looking for my whole life, understanding myself has been my first understanding of how intimacy should feel. We all ache for this feeling of being loved and wanted and some of us never find it or think they have but live in a lie with themselves. We cannot be intimate if we don’t understand our own feelings of intimacy. I have come from a family of no hugs and no connection, no communication and no affection. It was a violent and alcoholic environment, everything you felt was hidden in you and was not allowed out. To find out even how the women body works were not even heard of. Then I became a woman of expression all my sexual and erotic expressions came too life, yes I became an erotic dancer in clubs and pubs, expressing what I had depressed. this gave me the freedom not only to express myself but to live a life of buying things I wanted when I wanted, freedom. It was fun for a while but then I came to realise yes I might have been expressing my self on stage but when it came to having a relationship it was real and I blocked it all out in the bedroom with my partner. I shut down my emotions as I did not know how to feel erotic and intimate in the bedroom. this is where I was shy and found it hard to feel emotions.

life can work in crazy ways

Then I met my husband and yes over time I became numb and not knowing who I was. 20 years of crazy numb and how do I like my eggs? that is just one question I ask myself when I was finding who am I?

once I went out on my own that is when I became alive and started to find and feel what my body wants and express it again this is where it all begun. intimacy is now what I feel grow and excite myself with.

Dance movement breath and listening to what feels good letting my partner know as well so we can connect explore together. This time we have on our hands from the COVID-19, is a blessing and yes it is hard not to get court up in what everyone is posting and be totally confused. but to be able to sit beside your partner and just talk about whatever and be able to share something together is what we all need to get back to. These are moments to treasure. My experience yesterday was one of those. We both sat out on his balcony with a beautiful slight breeze having a cuppa tea and guess what we were both sewings together. the good old fashion way by hand, stitch by stitch just talking, we are so blessed for these times. Please make sure you capture and share with each other the most important part is telling your partner that you really enjoyed that moment and put a smile on there face. These are the moment that just floats into more moments that become part of our intimacy, because when we start to appreciate each other we have that different look in our eye towards each other and that how magic sex all starts. When we have this look in our eye you don’t need to say I LOVE YOU, your eyes say it all. You are now starting to share a connection of intimacy.

I have played with my body and nurtured and felt my pleasures. doing this I can explore with my partner with confidence sexual expression is my calling and I will help you find your feminine connection so you can explore intimacy in every way dreamt of in your dreams desirer and wild fantasy. we need to feel free to express our self in a sexual way and feel safe and comfortable with our partners to explore intimacy.

Let’s do this together

join me on a journey we all need to take

You don’t have to have a reason to feel good—you’re alive; you can feel good for no reason at all!– Tony Robbins

I am loving me and loving who you could be too.

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Feelings

Saying Goodbye

by pandora
written by pandora

WHEN MY NANNA PASSED

when my nanna past away I put down some words on a piece of paper, only to find it two and half years later as I was cleaning out some of my papers.

So I would love to share this with you as she meant the world to me.

My Nan was an amazingly beautiful model always looking like a lady, always had the plum in her mouth when presenting around people. she loved to be fussed over and always caring for others. As I understand it my nan was the backbone of trying to make sure us kids were in the best place and looked after at the same time.

My foster parents looked after us, Nan was always there to put the pieces together when they fell apart. My foster parent where my Nan and Pa yacht friends. My pa owned a yacht called Wayfarer and it was the first to start the Sydney to Hobart race. Every Sunday as a family we would head out on wayfarer, head to an island call piggies island, we would have a bbq lunch and play in the sand chacing all the shoulder grabs and collect oysters off the rocks to cook in the fireplace.

Then we would sail back to salamander bay and on our way back we would hang our feet over the side of the boat as she sails fast in the wind getting our legs wet and laughing. When we got back we would throw a line over and catch some fish, didn’t matter the size those days as the small one went to the cat, she loved them.

So theses are my words to my Nanna

Monnet Luke

The beauty who touched our lives

Your beauty so positive and bright

Your cheeky sence of humour we loved in the sunlight

Your time has come to join your husband in spirit and joy all so bliss

as you look down upon us, we will all make you proud of us

You will always be in our hearts as we remember your heart

These memories we take with us of the women that made sure her family and friends where alright

You are the best Nanna, wife, mother and sister we looked up too

My greatest Nanna in the whole world

We will all miss that cheeky, glamours and big hearted women we all loved

The Nanna I will always love

her garden so much loved

her cheeky sense of humour so loved

The sailing, the weeding, the hugs,the cookies, the cats are only just some of our memories

My Nanna I will miss so very much and that goes for all of us.

Yes you will always be in our hearts

every day as we move through our lives in every way and every day

love you Nanna.

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