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My Story

by pandora January 3, 2021

written by pandora

My promise to you is to start feeling again, find happiness within, and start reconnecting in your relationship.

My name is Pandora, and for a long time, let’s say, most of my life that I can remember. My survival was to shut down and protect and run away from what was right for me. As a child, happiness, as I saw my stepparents growing up, was arguments and violence. When someone promised me something, it wouldn’t happen, so for me to feel or even to know what happiness was all lies for me.

The pain I went through was something no one could understand as I felt nothing, which was normal for me. I learned to live and think this is what hurt is all about.

The self-sabotage I created was real, and this started a toxic life for me. And guess what I thought this was normal in my eyes.

I came from violence, abuse, and poverty. (with my stepfamily) Then I found exotic dancing, which gave me the freedom of expression and money, which lend to independence. Still, I had to shut down to dance naked for all these strange men. so it was a perfect little world for me.

I know how to shut down, loved the acting side of it, just expressing my naked body through music, which I still loved to do. I wish there were a space to do it without judgment.

There you go, another belief to release for 2021. yay, go, team Pandora, you got this.

This industry came with Flaws. Yes, I started to get into the drug scene. I used to only do it on my days off, not while working. I was different than the other girls, and I treaded it as an outlet to make money. The weekend and days off, I shut down my body, mind, and soul, and I leant towards not facing any reality at all with drugs, dance parties, and excellent doof doof music.

Then I met my ex-husband. He was perfect at this time of my life. He was full of knowledge, being nine years older. He helped me get off drugs, but I was still dancing because this is all I knew how to do.

Getting into exotic dancing so young, at the age of 17years old, I was 23 years old when I met my ex-husband. I had just done penthouse.

The photo shoot was in kings cross, what an experience.

then I moved to Melbourne and was a superstar again.; loving the attention and fame.

My ex-husband did not like this one bit. he tried many manipulative and different ways to get me out of this industry. But I set rules in the beginning of our relationship do not hit me, do not take my money, and do not ask me to stop dancing.

This made it hard for him, so he turned to verbal abuse manipulation. In the end, after ten years, he forced me in a way of hating my body and my self-image. He put me down a lot and controlled me also.

After 15 years of dancing, I ended up cutting my hair short and putting on weight—a big no-no in the lap dance industry. I turned to hate my looks and how I felt about myself. When I moved to Melbourne, it was all about pole dancing, lap dances, and working the stage performing.

When I finally woke up and left my ex-husband, it felt like I was free and strong. I was running on ego and adrenaline. I left my ex-husband with my four-year-old boy and had enough abuse as it became public and embarrassing.

I was hoping for a better life.

I did get one after a lot of work on myself. Finding who I am, finding the little girl of fun again, and finding feelings was the most significant achievement.

After a year or so, I started to reach out for help, finding coaching, and doing a coaching course myself. I then stumbled on Theta healing, which is where my passion is.

I love this tremendous simple process, which you too can use every day and is scientifically proven. Reset mindset.

I faced the pain alone first and was getting no forwards results, only sadness of sitting in my shit. I started a blog, and this helped immensely, and I still have this blog.

The solution is now easy and effortlessly, and I use these tools consistently in everyday life. I am a new woman with new beliefs and a positive manifesting lifestyle. I am receiving and giving as I move forwards in life. I am surrounding myself with amazing people and friends.

Know what happiness feels like, wow and having a sense of direction is indescribable.

I have created a step-by-step life-changing system. that you can use every day and make the changes you desire. I will guide you and show you how to feel again, be proud of who you are, love yourself too, and have fun doing it. Your relationship will become connected again, and you will send an attractive new positive fun frequency. We are all walking frequency and energy. What you think is your energy, and you will attract this into your life.

I love the feeling and laughing and just loving being be. that fun little girl I lost years ago. I have found purpose again and am loving sharing this gift and watching women shift and be unique.

So, are you in?

Are you ready to make a change?

Only you can put the work in!

reach out and message me to find out the first step you need to take.

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January 3, 2021

General

Reset Mindset

by pandora December 28, 2020

written by pandora

Everyone has a story. whether we choose to sit in it or create a new one

whether we decide to sit in the past or move forwards into the future

my story goes as a single mum, the feeling of doing it alone

being a single mum is one of the most challenging choices I have made.

My life, as I saw it, was perfect. I had a stable roof over my head, and I thought I had a nice regular husband and a steady job—an ideal environment to bring up your child, you would think.

That’s why I was waiting so long to have my boy. I wanted everything to be perfect

as my childhood was just not that nice.

So at 40, I had my boy. Before I realized my marriage was falling apart, I was in a state of depression and shut down, feeling nothing and just going along with life, as you do.

So I had my boy thinking everything would be Rossey and be even better. After four years of trying to make it work in my eyes and not seeing the real picture. The controlling, verbal abuse. Yes, I had my horses before my boy, that was my outlet, but when my boy came along, he was my priority as you do as a mother.

When I became a mother, this was my life. My husband was a shift worker, and he would work all night most of the time and need to sleep during the day, which is fine when it was just me. I would work all day then. It was hard to keep a baby quiet from 8 am till 4 pm. so I would go out for the day and entertain him for this time. As it happened, more and more, I was not copying. I was getting no sleep during the night, as my boy woke three times a night.

When I would put my boy down at 8 pm, I would think should I go to bed now or enjoy some me-time. If I went to bed, I couldn’t sleep, and if I stayed up, I would get less sleep as he would wake two hours after I fell asleep. To this day, I don’t know how I lasted for 6years of not sleep. How did I function? I guess you just hit the autopilot.

These days I had to stay out of the house while my husband slept where hard. I lived in a cold climate, and it was freezing. Trying to find friends to visit, taking him to those kids’ play centers were hard. I do the grocery shopping on the way home to unpack them so I could make some noise, as he was awake then.

My boy was not easy from day one, not sleeping, always hungry as my milk dried up, and breastfeeding and expressing the milk as it was not coming out. he threw tantrums till he made himself sick. He got expelled from a childcare center. When I would pick him up, I got told how bad he was and what therapy he needs. And to top it all off, I got verbal abuse, and I was not good enough. I don’t clean the house, I can’t cook, and made sit there while my husband expressed his opinion, and I had to agree to it. He was always right, and it was everyone else’s fault.

Yes, everyone has a story, and I have moved forwards and forgiven and removed blockages that have stopped me from living a peaceful life.

I made a big choice to leave this toxic relationship and do it alone.

And yes, it felt like I was alone.

For many years and sometimes even today, I would fall apart and feel alone as a single mum. I have been doing the self -work, which we all say we are doing. But to do this alone was hard too. I made some choices to study to be a coach, I found theta healing, and I got coached.

We all get stuck trying to make it alone. I do recommend finding someone you connect with and ask for help.

Asking for help is challenging in its self.

Stop feeling alone,

stop doing it alone, and make a change. The chance to reset the mindset.

Since moving out on my own with my boy when he was four years old, I have had many challenges. Yes, in the beginning, I was running on ego and making some wrong decisions.

I have also broken some men’s hearts and lived a bit on the way. When you don’t know how and what a relationship is, it is hard to find what you want because you don’t know yourself.

Now I am living a great life of peace, and my boy is growing with me.

Since 2014 we have moved five times moved states, and my boy has been diagnosed with ADHA, an autism spectrum, on medication, and now I am coaching women who are on the journey I used to live.

I help women feel that connection and strength and stop feeling alone and shut down. I am living proof of the best journey I can ever ask be in

Join me to make a shift you want to look back because you’re not going that way.

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December 28, 2020

General

Are you running or making a change in your life?

by pandora November 14, 2020

written by pandora

The best fantastic thing that could happen to me is the stops of my cycles that coursed so much pain.

This pain was so intense I thought this is what life was to be. I would become happy, and my child’s thoughts of something incredible happened to me would be taken away from me. My knowledge of happiness was sad, and to other people, this is not what happiness means to them.

I could not understand why no one got what was so real to me and yet so crazy to others. It took me a lot to know what happiness means and how to find who I was and learn how life works.

The day I became the same dancer thing, I would block out all feelings to treat it as business and make the big bucks. When the other girls let their emotions get in the way, I was healthy and blocked it out and hear another cycle just around the corner.

I thought falling in love meant feeling numb.

That how I treated it as that’s how I knew it. It was partly my subconscious. Wow, what a great combination was running away when I was happy and shutting down to cope with love.

Not a healthy way to live.

Know all this and do the work. I now look at my relationship from different eyes. I ask myself when something pops up, is this my shit or not. I ask myself questions where it comes from, and I also explain to my partner what is going around in my head. Not in an attacking way but just a general conversation, and this works.

Take pride in your won shit, get help, and make it work. Running aguing is not the answer.

We all have a story to tell of our history, share care, and love life.

so my question to you is before you go

Are you running or making a change in your life?

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November 14, 2020

General

Reach out coronavirus

by pandora May 2, 2020

written by pandora

PLEASE REACH OUT

When you see a friend acting not as they usually do, reach out and help them find there way back home. I have a dear friend and I am seeing actions that are out of the ordinary and not the responsible person I use to see.

This coronavirus has bought out a lot of different feelings we have hidden or run from for a long time. Now its time to face them and deal with them in the right way not to fight and flight. We must stop, pause and take a look at our selves threw our own eyes. As parents, we are role models for our kids, like it or not. we all do the best we can. So take a look at your self just for a minute and say is this how I want my child to be when he grows up. its never to late to make some different choices.

Now some words for my friend as I know they will read this and digest it. where do I start.

I am seeing that God is giving you a few chances latterly. We may have got some money but that won’t last unless we think smart. Please start looking for a job and go back to see your mum, who knows you may need her one day or just miss her one day. I had better words in my head but now it is coming out like advice. I don’t want to tell you what to do I need you to realise your action have outcomes. making choices in our own responsibility.

You have your whole life ahead of you now is the time to do it. Take a look at who you are associating with to how you are acting. finding people you look up to and have things you want to achieve in life. we are who we hang out with is the saying, i think

Points to think about,

NOT JUSTY FOR MY FRIEND BUT FOR ALL OF US, INCLUDING ME

Drinking is not the answer

Showing off is not the answer

Not seeing your mum is not the answer

Not taking responsibly is not the answer

Think about your child they need to have a structure to grow. So bed early on weekdays when school, holding your temper back, less drinking helps to clear your head, being responsible with your possessions. You need those to survive for work and getting around with your child. Sorry reality is hard and I am still learning, I am not perfect.

This may seem harsh but I just sore a clip-on fb the child hung himself because he broke another controller and was probably scared to tell his parents and a lot of other things, isolation of coronavirus. Our children don’t always tell us whats going on in their heads. So to show them we are one to look up to and to come to us if there is any problem is so crucial. Sorry that one just hit my heart and that one was probably for me. To have a look at some things I can do differently too.

So god is looing after you but he cannot make the decisions for you. You have the biggest heart put it where it is needed.

some special words

So take a look at your life, Do you really want to fight, Or is it just a fright

I know your heart is mighty big, But you just need to dig, Not a whole but a life

You are the best thing for your child, The children will go wild, If we don’t do it right

Unfold and take control, Lets be strong and live fun and long

You are amazing, So take the chains and throw them away, You can play after responsibility

So create a future and live, Love, and teach our young ones to live.

May 2, 2020

Feelings General

Facing your vagina

by pandora April 26, 2020

written by pandora

Do you feel comfortable with looking at your vagina?

I am a woman just like you and yes I use to feel uncomfortable looking at my vagina but she is your best friend. If you want to feel intimacy and sexual you need to get it to touch with what makes you feel excited, the vagina has many sensations and every woman is different. We hold blocks and fears which stops us from loving our vaginas. You all have a story and I love this because you have a choice to make you feel excited and loved and amazing. “your choice.”

How you ask?

Let’s just say if you don’t know what feels good how is your partner meant to know. Well, I guess he will try all sorts of things but if you don’t guide him he may just lose interest, not because he doesn’t love making you feel good but because you are, (not meaning too)giving him a sense of worthlessness. You see men are very simple they like to please there lady and make them feel good because then you will want to return the favour as you both connect in a special loving way.

Getting in touch with you.

some simple exercises are looking into the mirror at your vagina, then exploring feel, felt, touch and finding sensations you like, so you can share and enjoy together.

Sex is fun if we just get out of our heads and not be so busy that we cannot fit each other’s needs of pleasure in. we are at a time where time is on our side and should take advantage of this and start to explore each other, like when we first met. We need to explore our own bodies and find out what works for you and then we can share this with our partners. That’s why we are here yes PLEASURE NoT PAIN.

April 26, 2020